27. April 2026
I want to Know what love is...
I have struggled my whole life wondering if I was worthy of love. As a child I often wondered if anyone loved me? I know my parents tried their very best but they had baggage from their own childhoods that impeded their showing affection. I had some very traumatic things happen as a child that also left me feeling like I was just something to be used up and tossed away. No one really loved me. It left me searching for love. Foreigner has a song “I want to know what love is” It was written by Mick Jones in 1984. He says he had gone through a divorce and there was turmoil in the band. He was up one night and the words came to him. In interviews he explained “I don’t know where it came from. I consider it a gift that was sent through me. I think there was something bigger than me behind it. I’d say it was probably written entirely by a higher force.”
We as humans need love. There is the famous Romanian baby study. After the revolution in the early 1990’s people could finally see into the orphanages. There they found that staff were so overwhelmed that they just fed babies (propped the bottles up) and changed babies but never held or hugged them. Children developed self-stimulating behaviors, such as incessant rocking or head-banging, but even more surprising; researchers reported extremely high rates of morbidity and mortality in these settings compared to environments with nurturing care. Babies died because of lack of love.
Research strongly suggests that strong social connections, community, and relationships is more critical for longevity than diet alone.
Why? God created us for relationship with Him. We long for that love. In Genesis we learn that God would walk in the Garden with Adam and Eve. “They heard the voice of the Lord God, who was walking around in the garden during the cooler part of the day” Genesis 3:8. He wanted to have a relationship with His creation.
More than anything I could ever desire is my longing for relationships with my children. That connection is life-giving. So as I feel that I have to realize how much God loves me. I know this saying is tossed around so much we have grown numb to it but think about that. I would never sacrifice my son’s life for anything. NO! I would gladly give my life for his BUT GOD… John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
God loves us! He wants to have a relationship with us and that should motivate us to want to spend time with Him.
I find that when I do, I can feel His love and it makes me a more peaceful, content person.